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Jump-Start Your Relationship With Jesus Using These Simple Steps – Part 3

This is the third part of our series for the Christian seeking to improve your relationship with Jesus.  To link to Part 1, click HERE.  To link to Part 2, click HERE

In Part 2, we finished looking at the 1st of 4 steps in jump-starting your relationship with Jesus.

  1. Analyze
  2. Apologize
  3. Adjust
  4. Advocate

It can be a difficult thing to fully Analyze Your Friendship with Jesus, and it is the most time-consuming of the 4 steps.  We previously looked at Signs of a Bad Friend and Signs of a Good Friend in order for us to be more honest about our relationship.

Now that you have a more clear picture of where your relationship stands with Jesus, it is time to move on to the second step.

STEP 2 – Apologize

This is so simple to do, but for some reason, we try to deny that it needs to be done and just move on with our relationship, which is impossible.

The denial process happens for a number of different reasons:

  • We refuse to acknowledge our sins/shortcomings/neglect/disorderly walk/etc
  • We blame others for our actions
  • We don’t think it’s necessary

So this part is really simple…each one of these reasons is masterminded by Satan himself.

It doesn’t take years of sinful ways to mar your relationship with Jesus.  You could be attending church regularly and living as good of a life as you possibly can, but not spending time in prayer with Him will put distance between you.  It takes you acknowledging whatever it has been on your part and apologizing to Jesus for you to be able to develop the fullest relationship possible.

What comes after your apology?  Forgiveness.


Jesus is ready and waiting to start fresh with you.  That’s who He is.

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness, (1 John 1:9).

So, right now, acknowledge the part you have played in creating distance between you and God.  Now ask God to forgive you.  Ask Him to place in you a new heart full of passion and desire for a relationship with Him.

The best friends you have ever had in your life apologized to you when it was warranted.

STEP 3 – Adjust

To apologize for one’s behavior and not make adjustments thereafter is a hollow act.

When you feel true sorrow for your actions, you make changes in your life so that you don’t do it again.

I’ve been in this position, and when I set out to have a different relationship with Jesus, I made it a mission to find out how.  I prayed earnestly for Godly wisdom, a fire in my heart, renewed passion and faith.  I read books on prayer, watched some Christian movies, listened to Christian radio, and began to read my Bible like I never had before.

I’m not perfect.  Far from it.  But I set out to fulfill myself as a Christian because I knew there was more to it than the way I had been living.  And let me tell you something my friend…God changed me.  I didn’t change me.  I adjusted my behavior and sought Him earnestly like never before, and HE CHANGED ME!

Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened, (Matthew 7:7-8).

At one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light, (Ephesians 5:9).

Believers, He will change you too.  Adjust your life to better your relationship with Him and He will change you.

STEP 4 – Advocate for Jesus

Another word for advocate is…Apostle.

A person who supports an idea or cause publicly.  There is no greater cause than Jesus, and if you are a Christian you have been called by His Great Commission to spread the Gospel.

All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age, (Matthew 28:18-20).

These are the words of Jesus Himself.  Brothers and Sisters, Jesus has called you to be an Apostle.

Maybe you haven’t really understood that before.  Maybe you are afraid of it.  Maybe you have been refusing to fulfill it.  Whatever the case may be for you, if you have not been an Apostle for Jesus now is the time for you to start.

We all have different gifts.  God gave them to us.  We are not all called to preach.  We are not all artists.  We are not all singers.  We are not all teachers.  Whatever gift God gave you, He meant for you to use it to fulfill the Great Commission.

 And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers, to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, (Ephesians 4:11-12).

You can do that in so many ways in your daily life.  Don’t hide the light you have within yourself.  Let it shine as a beacon to the world.

That you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, (Philippians 2:15).

If you have a friend you would not acknowledge publicly, I would question whether or not this person was really your friend.  Jesus is no different.  You cannot say that you love Him and refuse to acknowledge Him to the world.

For your own sake…for His sake…be His Apostle.


I began this series because I felt there may be some Christians who don’t know how to have the most fulfilling relationship with Jesus they can.  “Jump-Start Your Relationship With Jesus Using These Simple Steps” turned out to have 3 parts!  For some, that may seem like the steps are not as simple as advertised.  Truth is…they are simple.  You just have to be willing to honestly take each step.

  • STEP 1: Analyze your friendship with Jesus
  • STEP 2: Apologize for your mistakes and be awarded forgiveness by Jesus
  • STEP 3: Adjust your life to improve your relationship with Him
  • STEP 4: Advocate for your Savior

Improve your relationship with Jesus using these simple steps and change your life in the process.

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My Biggest Regret as a Christian Mom

To Tell the Truth

I’m going to be brutally honest with you…I’m not sure I have always been the most compassionate mother of all time, or even of any time.  When my kids were little – and I have three – I mastered a course in How Not to Hear Your Children’s Voices.  It was included in a much bigger educational catalog that I completed as part of the PhD I received in the Life of a Working Mother.  Some of the prerequisites for my particular degree include:

  • Oh Yeah, You’re A Teenage Bride
  • Let’s Take A Toddler to College
  • Let’s Take Two Toddlers to College
  • Yep, You’re Taking Another Toddler to College
  • Why Can’t Anyone Take Their Socks Off The Right Way
  • Where Do Ginger Babies Come From
  • Life Is Not A Fairy Tale
  • Is Colic Contagious
  • What to Do When Your 5 Year Old Contracts a Rare Disease
  • Mini-Vans Are Sexy

My children became aware of my newly developed skills, and after they had yelled, “MOM!”, in my face for ten minutes and I had successfully ignored them, they began to call me, “Tricia”.

That is my name, yes…I am aware of that.

But, my own children are not to call me by my first name.  This practice perturbed me greatly, and they knew it.  It would, however, get my attention.

Chunks of Compassion

The point is compassion.  Besides the fact that I have been known to laugh at them when they hurt themselves – oh come on, sometimes it’s funny – probably my least compassionate moment as a mother came when my youngest child, Autumn, was only 5 years old.

****Warning!  Some details may be too real/gross for some people.

She was sick at her stomach one evening, and didn’t quite make it to the bathroom before things began to go south.  By the time my other kids had yelled me out of my trance, she was coming out of the bathroom when I reached the door.  After I quickly assessed her, I sent her off to her room where she was to wait for me until I cleaned things up.  I had planned the normal routine a parent follows when a child has tummy troubles:  cold washcloth, a little water, etc.  Even though I had been grading papers and doing things to prepare for the next school day for the kids and myself (I taught high school history), I quickly switched gears when called into battle.  That is until I saw the melee that was before me.  Now, I’m not talking about vomit.  Who cares about vomit?  Mothers deal with vomit and poop and everything else.  We’re basically those guys who come clean up at crime scenes but don’t get paid for it.  But this was different.  The whole mess was large unchewed chunks of food.  Entire chunks of pineapple just to give you an idea.  This just made me mad.  All compassion disappeared.  I could not believe what I was seeing.  As I was cleaning, I was yelling at her!

“No wonder you’re sick.  None of this food has even been chewed.  This is ridiculous.  If you ever do anything like this again, YOU are going to clean it up yourself.  I don’t even feel sorry for you.  How could you even swallow this crap?”

What Happened?

Probably not my finest moment.  Because of my own raising, I don’t have the response to medical/health situations many parents do.  My father was a doctor in a small town, and we saw a lot of things most kids don’t see.  I never got too excited over this kind of stuff, and as a mother, my response wasn’t any different.

I had two older brothers and a younger sister, and besides what we saw in my dad’s clinic, we were always getting hurt somehow.  My parents always handled it very calmly; like it was no big deal.

I very clearly remember when I was in lower elementary school there was a boy in my class that would always make such a big deal over any little thing that happened to him.  If he fell and scraped his knee he would wail and, seemed to me, act like he was dying.  I didn’t really know what to make of his behavior, my brothers didn’t act like that, but it stuck out to me.  I thought maybe this was how you were supposed to act.  So, the next time I hurt myself at home I decided to really ham it up – like the boy at school.

I fell and my mother was attending me.  I just kept crying, which I really didn’t need to cry at all but I was testing this new behavior.  I got louder and really began to make a show.  My mom stopped taking care of me, looked at me and said, “What is the matter with you?  That is ridiculous!”  She was right.  It was ridiculous.  I shut up immediately and never acted like that again.

Perhaps some of these things had an effect on how I handled my own children’s issues.

How Did We Get Here?

To help me remain sane in the craziness of our lives at the time, I learned to block my kids out – as most parents do at some point.

But now, they are all three gone.  They all have jobs and their own places to live.  I look back on those days, some when I had little patience and far less compassion.  The days when I didn’t put God before coffee, when I didn’t even understand what that meant.  I regret the time I could have spent with them that I didn’t.  I regret the time they seemed to just bother me more than anything else.  I regret that I wasn’t nicer at times when I could have been.  I regret that I didn’t know then what I know now.  But more than anything else…I regret that I can’t load them up in the mini-van and drive them to church every Sunday.  I can’t show them every day how Jesus has changed me, and what wonderful things He can do for them.  I can’t help them understand the great power of the Holy Spirit that is inside them every day.  I can’t live my life again and be the living testimony to God’s divine grace for my children that I should have been in the first place.

Train up a child in the way he should go:  And when he is old, he will not depart from it, (Proverbs 22:6).

I find great comfort in this verse. I pray all my children will one day live to serve God, and truly understand how blessed their lives will be when they put Him above all else.  I pray that for your children too.

To Christian parents, especially those with young children, never miss an opportunity to let Jesus shine through you.  The greatest gift you can give your children is Jesus.  Tell them about Him.  Immerse their lives in Him.  Let them see Him in you.

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Jump-Start Your Relationship With Jesus Using These Simple Steps – Part 2

In Part 1 of this series, we looked at the steps you need to take to jump-start your relationship with Jesus.  (You can link back to that article by clicking HERE.)  Those Steps are:

  1. Analyze
  2. Apologize
  3. Adjust
  4. Advocate

(Please understand, this series of articles is designed for the born-again believer.  If you are not already saved, the only way you can jump-start your relationship is by accepting Him as your Savior.)